Avoid These 5 Habits to Find Your Calling in Life

By Purnima BalrajuApr 10, 2017

Like all millennials, I have not found my reason to wake up in the morning. I realise some key habits to kick out of my system.

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What is a ‘Calling’?

Basically this is your path in life. It is the activity that captivates you, aligns with your values and no matter how tough it gets you enjoy every moment of it. Yes, your calling fulfils all three!

Imagine a life where you wake up and go to work or to school and you get thrown a last minute task. No matter what the problems that arise from it, you feel willing to accept and face it. At the end of it, you don’t feel drained. That, my friends, is when you know you have found your calling. Have you found yours yet? Like me, are you still working on it?

Perhaps why you’re not living your passion right now could be due to your self-sabotaging habits. YOU keep getting in your way every time you work on your goals. Let’s take a look at some of the habits that gets us sidetracked. You will recognise some of them!

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1.  Procrastinating

The number one cause of death for all dreams: procrastination. Did you know that every time you utter the word “later”, a child dies. So what if I’m being dramatic? This should be a serious offence! It’s a major block to you reaching your goal. When the going gets tough, it’s easy to get sidetracked on an unrelated project. Or perhaps distract yourself from the pain by watching all those cat videos. Sounds familiar?

[Related Article: ‘My Daily Fight Against Procrastination‘]

Either way, procrastination happens at moments you don’t need it. When the going gets tough in rediscovering your passions, the procrastination monster tends to sneak up on you.

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2.  Not Prioritising “Me” Time

Happy hour drinks with the girls on Friday night? Yes. Attend an acquaintance’s pre-wedding party. I’ll be there. Send your parents to the shopping mall. Let me get the car keys. Very often we end up using our time on tasks which have little to no effect on finding our path in life. How are you supposed to know what your calling is when you don’t invest some time in yourself?

3.  Negative Self-Talk

Our society is a rat race. It is about who has the bigger house, the better car or a higher pay check. We pile on these Darwinian expectations on ourselves (guilty!) and when we fall short of it, that little voice at the back of our heads gets louder. And louder.

Stop listening to that voice.

Sure we can never get rid of it. Being self-critical can drive us forward. But when you give it power, that’s when you lose yourself. Your real self. The one trying to tell you that you can live without the bigger house.

4.  Not Letting Go of Your Fears

What is stopping you from focusing completely on finding your passion? Perhaps it is the fear that it would take you away from your comfortable job. Or having to uproot your life to chase your goals.

While it is easier said than done, letting go would keep you moving forward to living the life you were meant to live. During your “Me” time, reflect not only on what you love but the fears holding you back.

5.  Not Acknowledging the Root Cause of the Habits

All these habits (especially procrastination) are a symptom of a deeper problem. When trying to break down the barriers of these habits, it useful to think about why we tend to self-sabotage ourselves this way.

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Why We Self-Sabotage

This behaviour creates an obstacle to your long term goals. For instance, if you are committed to eating healthy but have the occasional junk food binge. This can take the form in a variety of ways such as … PROCRASTINATION. Yup, that monster lurks in the darkest of corners.

Now that we know what this is about, why do we keep doing it to ourselves even though we know it is bad for us?

Every individual is multi-faceted. Meaning there are two sides to us: logical and the free selves. The logical one keeps us focused on mandatory tasks such as work. Our free side feeds our passion. When these two selves work towards a singular goal, you’ve found your calling!

Frequently our free self is caged by the logical side, that is when the self-sabotaging happens. For instance, you are good at your job but you’re always sleeping in which makes you late for work all the time. Your self-sabotaging behaviour is because you’re not a morning person at all.

Armed with this knowledge on the habits to avoid, share with me YOUR goals and how your progress to it!

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